Actions Speak Louder than words

More than once during my career I’ve encountered people who have little or no respect for our work or our field.

Normally that happens during fairly private conversations that are easily dealt with, but once or twice it has taken place during very public events where a true defence has been inappropriate and yet some show of strength was necessary.

Any Spiritual worker will have experienced this at one time or another, and we are all realistic enough to know that such behaviour is born of fear and superstition, and often generated by people who are hanging on to age-old misconceptions that have been handed down from generation to generation.

Understanding that doesn’t help us though, especially when it happens in public and when we’re trying to keep our energy at a specific vibration in order to do our best work; so what can we do?

My first thought is, don’t try to prove them wrong. If someone doesn’t understand our field and fears it so much that they find it necessary to be rude, bandying words with them will only prolong the agony. Much better to politely note their comments and ask if you could discuss it at the end of the event. With a lot of luck they’ll forget about it and go home.

One of the better known television Mediums always asks at the beginning of his events that sceptics will be courteous of the feelings and needs of the rest of the audience, not for his own sake but because the audience have paid for their tickets and the vast majority of people actually want to be there and receive a message. That seems to work very well.

Most importantly, try to control your own feelings. Your job is to keep your energy at a peak level for working, and to concentrate on the people who do want to be there whilst trying to protect your energy from those who don’t.

On a Psychic level you could set up mirrors in your mind between you and the people sending you angry vibes and/or giggling and heckling. Mirrors reflect people’s emotions back and require them to deal with their own negative energies. That is a very gentle way of handling things and the setting up of the mirrors will help you to clear your mind of the negative fog that is trying to envelop you.

However, the emotional impact can be very upsetting and handling it can be very difficult, especially as we are people who are extremely sensitive to the emotions of others and fooling us isn’t easy even if you are sitting there ostensibly being polite. We pick up even on those who send us negativity even when they aren’t overtly giggling or heckling.

Even though we are realistic and know that many people either do not understand our field or completely disagree with it, it still creates a sense of despair that others can be so disparaging. Especially when we know that we believe in peace, love and all the good emotions.

Human and fallible though we are we know that we are at least trying our best to act in a kind and compassionate way as often as we possibly can, and the saddest and most difficult part of it is that the people heckling us are often the people who need us the most.

That is why ‘trust’ should be the most important word in our vocabulary. We must trust that these negative people have been bought to us for a reason, even though they have arrived before they need the information we have to offer. The Spirit World will always know when someone needs to make a connection with our field whether they realise it or not, and we must trust in the process of life.

We must also remember that words once spoken can never be forgotten, they can be dismissed on a conscious level but never forgotten by the subconscious, so even though these people may feel that their time was wasted, deep in the recesses of their mind the good will have taken root and started to flower.

Even if the change in them is only minuscule at first, even if it is a change that you will never see, even if it will be their friends who will point it out and their families that will benefit, that doesn’t matter. All we really need to know is that a good word is never lost.

Imagine this, they go home to their family and friends and tell them about the ‘idiot’ they heard speaking or demonstrating the other night and someone in their crowd either understands the message from Spirit or they resonate with something that was said. Something that will make the stranger that wasn’t even in the same room as you begin their own Spiritual voyage of discovery and turn their world into a happier and more positive place.

Would you have wished that the sceptic hadn’t come along that night? Of course not.

The very nature of our work is that sometimes it has to fall on deaf ears in order to help people to start hearing again; on closed minds in order to open them, and on shrivelled hearts in order to nourish them. As I always say, sometimes the message really is more important than the Medium.

So even though we all know we can’t change the world, we can ignore it when necessary, keep believing in the things we hold dear and trust that we really are on the right lines. Most importantly, we can do our utmost to walk our talk and live by example.

Actions actually do speak louder than words, and with a lot of luck our actions will eventually bring about real change that will last a great deal longer than our words, and our baton will be picked up by future generations and carried proudly into an ever improving future.

I believe that. I’ve often been called an idealist, but I want an ideal world for everyone that lives in it, and whilst I’m realistic enough to know that will take a long time to materialise I’m not apologising for that, and I’m proud of every last single person who’s out there trying to create that world.

And that means you!

Wishing you happy days, blissful nights and minimal numbers of sceptics

© Deb Hawken - First published in Silent Voices 2010